Well, I enjoyed my bath and early night. However, the promised cup of tea didn't materialise and when I got up this morning this is what greeted me (along with being pestered by the cat as no-one had fed him):
It seems that I am the only one capable of tidying up and loading a dishwasher!A few days ago I came across a saying by Confucius on someone's blog side-bar. It was something like this: "There is beauty in everything but not all can see it". I guess you can apply this to housework and mess - not the beauty part but the fact that it is invisible when someone other than you needs to do it!
*Thank you all so much for your kind words and hugs following my last post. They were very much appreciated.
**I now have 1 finished sock and have started on it's twin!
My husband's good at noticing a mess - he's just not good at tidying it up...
ReplyDeleteI hope you're feeling a little better, at least.
Hi Tilli, I just got back from holidays and finally am having a chance to catch up on everyone's blogs. I just read your post below and I just feel sad about your news. Being over 40 myself, I can imagine how hard a decision you are having to make. The Babe is quite a bit younger than me as well and if he decided he wanted his own children (I have had 2 already from a previous marriage), well, I don't know if I could do it. I am thinking of you. Don't fret the dishes or the mess, life is too short and focus on all that is good and wonderful. When faced with a huge mess, I usually have a cup of coffee, read a magazine and then get cleaning.
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ReplyDeleteWhat a horrible greeting for you in the morning - did it take long to sort out? I know just what you're saying about the bath thing - I have one every year on Mother's Day. (But I usually have to cut it short due to several arguments taking place outside the door!)
Re your last post, what a terrible thing to have to go through and how brave to share it with the world. Whatever you decide I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you (but personally I'd have another go!)
I once ripped my husband's shirt off in rage when he... oh it's a long story and I WAS postpartum. The short of it though was that he now does tend to recognize a mess and assumes some responsibility. So, rip his shirt off! (I am a professionally licensed psychotherapist)
ReplyDeleteI can relate, and I am actually planning to post about "mess" in the next while!
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I am so very sorry for your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages, one before each of my children. I do hope that whatever decision you make you are content with it. I hate that feeling of wondering "what if". I drive myself crazy wondering that sometimes. You are in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteAbout taking baths...I've been trying to get a bath in each night as a "mama unwinding time." I had a difficult time justifying the water use, but figured that it couldn't be much worse than the 15-20 minute shower that I take every morning. Besides, we have a rather deep garden tub and it is just heavenly to sink down into it with a good book.
So, I have a similar experience to your waking up to a mess (that sentence sounds weird...hope it makes sense!). I work 8 hrs every Friday while my hubs stays home with our 2 yr old and 6 yr old. It doesn't matter how clean I leave the house, I always come home to utter chaos. I'm trying to embrace it. I try to tell myself that at least the kiddos were having fun and if the hubs didn't have time to clean then that means that he was playing with the kiddos too (and not watch tv on the couch). I don't know how true that statement is, but I'm working on convincing myself of it just to ease my panic-must-clean-now mode.
And I love the smell of clothes dried on the line too! I dry everything on the line. My son (the 6 yr old) giggles everytime he sees our under garments hanging outside to dry.